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Wanting Your Avoidant Ex to Know How Much They ...

I can't even count how many long messages I sent my avoidant ex while we were together and after things ended. Many. Times. Some of those messages were loving. Some...

This Is The Mistake I Made When My Avoidant Ex ...

When my avoidant ex came back, I made the mistake of assuming his return meant something had changed. At the time, that felt like the obvious conclusion. We had already...

Why Avoidants Push Secure Relationships Away

At first, it often feels counterintuitive. If avoidants struggle with connection, wouldn’t a secure partner be exactly what keeps them grounded? Someone with secure attachment offers emotional stability, clear communication,...

Why You Keep Going Back To An Avoidant (It's No...

It usually starts the same way it always does. You meet someone, you fall in love, and slowly it becomes hard to imagine your life without them. Especially when that...

What No One Really Tells You About a Break-Up W...

Walking away from an avoidant partner is something that gets encouraged a lot online. I do that myself. I speak openly about it and I stand behind that message; especially...

How to Create Safety With an Avoidant (Without ...

In a relationship with an avoidant, all you really want is for it to feel safe. Not perfect, not intense, not dramatic — just safe enough that you don’t have...